A Quick Story…
So, my mom has a favorite story about me from when I was 5 years old and in kindergarten. That year I insisted on riding the bus to and from school “by my self.” One day I came home crying because an older girl had hit me on the bus ride. As I sobbed, and told my mom and little brother what had happened, my brother sprang into protective mode and said “I’ll go on that bus tomorrow and hit that girl for you!” Through my tears I begged him not to. When he asked me why not, I said, “Because, I don’t want anyone else to ever feel like I do right now.”
Why this story?
I share this little story with you because I think it best describes, well…me.
Here’s what I know: through struggle we grow. Struggle is how we develop self-esteem. Our darkest nights can actually create our brightest days. BUT taking a closer look at our most unhappy, uncomfortable, scary, and sometimes embarrassing moments is really hard to do. That’s where I come in!
Just as I didn’t want anyone to feel the hurt and embarrassment I felt when I was 5 years old on that school bus, I don’t want anyone, or any relationship, to have to struggle alone. We can’t avoid pain and hurt in life. Sometimes struggling is our most powerful tool, especially when strengthening self-esteem. As a therapist I not only get to offer support and compassion in times of struggle, but I also get to teach my clients how to find the find the light from the darkness, how to notice and celebrate the growth that comes from their struggle, and how to deepen their self-worth.
Ultimately it will be you who finds your way out of the darkness, but I can offer assistance, new ways of looking at things, support, guidance and hope along the way. Together, we can take what feels like the worst thing that ever happened to you and transform it into the thing you are most grateful for.
What this means for you
Research has shown that the working relationship between a client and counselor is the second most significant factor in change. So when looking for a therapist it is important for you to find someone that you feel comfortable with, that you want to work with, and that you share similar viewpoints with.
My hope is that sharing this childhood story, and a bit about why I do this work, will help you to get to know me and to have a better idea if you feel we would be a good fit in working together.
Please feel free to check out my blog, and explore the rest of my website in detail, to get a better understanding of me, and the work I do.
If you are interested in learning more about working together please contact me at caley@caleyphilipps.com or at (206) 420-9895. Once I hear from you we will schedule a complimentary 20-minute phone call to discuss your specific needs and how my services may be able to assist you.
