Growth, change, healing, self-worth all require these 3 rules. There is a common misconception that self-esteem is something we are born with; that we either have it or we don’t. The truth is self-esteem is earned, created, developed, strengthened, and worked for. Our self-worth is like any muscle in our bodies, it has to be used and pushed to get stronger.
These “3 Simple Rules in Life” are great reminders of the steps and effort that self-esteem require.
1. Deciding what we want and then going for it are key steps to increasing self-esteem and satisfaction in life. The key is being aware that we will hit some bumps in the road along the way. Personal growth and increased self-worth come from surviving the bumps, not giving up, and finding a way to create success in the face of challenge. Through struggle we grow! Sometimes we can learn more from our misses than we do from our successes. Going for it is what’s ultimately important for our self-worth.
2.Voicing our wants, desires, interests, curiosities, and hopes is how those things become reality. And as far as your self-esteem goes this is a win-win situation! Standing up for yourself, realizing and expressing your want(s) strengthens your self-esteem on its own. Then, either getting or not getting your want gives us new opportunities to further develop self-esteem. Either by celebrating our success or by giving us a chance to redefine what we want and how we go after it.
3. I like to use a quote by Samwise Gamgee in Lord or the Rings when tackling this step with my clients, “one more step and I’ll be one step further away from home then I’ve ever been before.” Self-worth isn’t created over night, but it also doesn’t just show up knocking at your door. We have to take steps, usually baby steps, to strengthen and change our self-worth. Growing is not comfortable, growing is pushing past our point of comfort to something new; it’s taking just one step farther from home then we’ve ever been before.
How can you use these “3 simple rules” to help strengthen your self-esteem?