Is Your Confidence Keeping You Stuck?

Lately, I’m obsessed with this quote from Marianne Williamson:

“With every attitude we demonstrate faith- either faith in what can go wrong or faith in what can go right. Our problem is that we tend to have tremendous faith in the power of our disasters and far too little faith in the power of miracles.”

 

Um, hello Marianne.   Spot on much?

 

Personally, I’ve totally fallen victim to this mentality in the past.   Still do, sometimes.

I’m safe, housed, fed, clothed, loved, passionate, employed and yet it’s way easier to be confident that the other shoe WILL drop than it is to feel confident that things will go my way.

 

What gives?  

What makes us ignore all the parts of our life that are going swimmingly and focus on those stubborn parts that are still a work in progress?

 

The short answer: our brains.

 

It’s the survival-focused part of our brains that is always on the look out for physical danger so we can- you know- stay alive.  

 

Yeah.

Pretty important, beautiful, loving and totally necessary brain functioning.  

AND, it can totally screw us when it comes to living a secure, calm, peaceful and abundant life.

 

Here’s the thing friend: just ‘cause your brain has got the whole look-for-danger thing down to a science doesn’t mean it has to be the only stance, viewpoint or input you accept.  

 

There are 1000’s of ways each day that things go right for us.   Even on the crappy days there are still SO MANY things that go right.

It’s our job to strengthen + deepen our faith in what can go right and develop our trust muscle.

Here’s 3 easy steps for strengthening your trust in what can go right.

 

  1. Thank your brain.

 

See our brains don’t actually care about our happiness.   That’s not what they’re about. 

Our brains are designed (amazingly well) to keep our physical body alive ‘n’ kickin’.  

 

Every time we shush ‘em they get worried we didn’t get the message and might be in danger so they replay the message, even louder.  It can become a never ending battle if you let it.  

 

Instead of shushing, judging, shaming or blaming your beautiful brain start thanking it.

Acknowledge it.  

Let it know you got the message.  

This way you can finally start working together + paying attention to what can (and totally does) go right.

 

  1. Thank the universe.

 

There’s no better way to show yourself how many things go right each day than to start tracking ‘em.  

A super simple way to do this is to challenge yourself to find a minimum of 100 things PER DAY to thank the Universe for.

 

Anything from:

  • hot water
  • cold water
  • indoor plumbing
  • your breaks or blinkers working in your car
  • the lock on your door working
  • the chair that is literally supporting your ass right now.

The list could go on and on and on……  

 

Spend some time each day pointing out to your inner safety officer all the things totally going right.

 

  1. Create a motto.

 

Inevitably there will be times with your faith + trust are tested.   During these times a motto- some simple reminder that all is well– is so incredibly helpful for keeping in faith.

 

My personal favorite came from a sermon by Joel Osteen, I call it “even now faith.”  (Might even be the title of the sermon.)   Basically, it’s an even now, in this scary, uncertain, I can’t predict the future place I know all is working out for my highest good.   I might not see the reason or plan but I trust that the Universe does.

Talk about working that ol’ trust muscle out.   You’ll be feeling the burn, and the hope, in no time.  🙂

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