You’ve heard the term “glass ceiling” but what exactly is it?
In short: it’s a blind spot.
It’s something that feels so normal to you that you don’t even realize that there’s another way.
It keeps you stuck.
Doing the same old thing, over and over, hoping that this time you get a different result. This time things will change.
The more we fear NOT being in control, the more these internal limits rule us.
Like those invisible dog fences. Our glass ceilings give us the illusion of safety as long as we stay in our own yards.
And yet, in order to change your life, increase your joy, get in the flow of abundance and accept prosperity into our lives we’ve got to take the limits off ourselves. We’ve got to be willing to venture out past our own yards + be open to what comes our way.
Tricky. Tricky. Tricky. No?
The first step in taking the limits off yourself is starting to understand + recognize your limits. All of ‘em.
Now I know it can sound tempting to just blow past these bad boys and never look back. But here’s the thing, you can’t truly leave ‘em behind without knowing what they look like. When you skip this step they just pop up in a different outfit and you unknowingly welcome right back in.
Identification is key. Which means starting to learn what they feel like.
So let’s dig into the two most common signs that you’re hitting a glass ceiling + break down exactly what they feel like.
(And what they’re actually about.)
- When what you want isn’t happening.
To me, this one feels like literally running into a wall.
I’ve got the energy, the plan, am taking action and then…. thud. It just sorta…. stops.
Like I’ve run into an invisible wall and literally can’t go any farther.
What’s happening here is that we’ve got one idea, one belief, one plan of attack and all our eggs are in this basket.
We say things like,
“I’ve just got to____”
“They just need to”
“That’s not it, I’ve already worked on that.”
“I don’t know how.”
“I don’t know what I want.”
Basically, we are eyeball deep into must-look-a-certain-way-land without even knowing it.
In other words: we’re desperately seeking control vs. our goal and totally unaware of it.
- I feel nervous it might actually happen.
To me, this one feels like butterflies. Big time.
When I picture getting what I want I feel so squirmy, so unsettled, so uncomfortable that I end up sabotaging any chance of getting it.
What’s happening here is that the fear of leaving our comfort zone is so fierce that we find ways + reasons to stay exactly where we are.
We say things like,
“I’ll never be able to do that.”
“I hate change.”
“Yeah but HOW do I do that?”
“ Other people don’t do that.”
Much like a look-at-that-shiny-object distraction we keep the focus on why we can’t have it, it won’t work, or what’s missing so that we never actually have to take any steps towards having it. We talk a big game. With no actual follow through.
Here’s the thing, my friends: neither of these glass ceilings is right or wrong, good or bad, better or worse, about you not being good enough, or impassable.
When you’re willing to start looking at where you actually are.
And, own what’s actually going on your life starts changing. Instantly.