My coming out story


I’m about to do something a little scary.

I’m coming out of the closet.   Right here.   Right now.

It all started several months ago when I watched this amazing Ted Talk for the first time.

The short version: Ash beautifully shares what “a closet” truly is: a hard conversation. That fear, deep inside, that believes, “if you knew this about me, you wouldn’t accept me.”

We ALL have closets. That part of us that we keep locked away based solely on fear.

What’s in my closet?

So here’s what’s been in my closet for years:  I’m an energy junkie + spiritual seeker.

I adore the Law of Attraction, A Course in Miracles, Chakras, meditation, and prayer, energy healing, God, angles, guides. Basically all things woo-woo.

And what I really want is to be a coach for your mind, body + your heart ‘n’ soul.

I started down this road (kinda) when I became a therapist.

At that point in my life, becoming a therapist felt like my only option for working as a healer. I’d had little, if any, exposure to the world of energy medicine. I couldn’t imagine spending my days not talking about feelings, so I dove in headfirst with the whole therapist thing.

I spent SO MUCH TIME learning + understanding the scientific reasons for why we feel, or act, the way we do, in the hopes of making it OK to talk about what I love most … feelings.

What’s I’ve come to understand, is that as long as I put this one side of me- the neuroscience therapist- forward, I’m not living my purpose. Or as Ash might say, I’m still in the closet.

The Thing About Closets

The scientific, educated, neuroplasciticy-expert part of me is only one part of me.

It’s not the real me. It’s not the whole me.

And, keeping my energy-junkie Universe-loving side in the closet doesn’t allow me to own my personal power. Embrace my strengths. My passion. Or live my purpose.

Living in the closet turned me into me a watered-down, struggling, less-than, powerless, depleted, exhausted, burned-out version of me.    (ehm, haven’t posted a blog post in a year.)

Living Fully (Out)

“As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”

~Marianne Williamson

When I share the real me with my girlfriends, hubby, clients and fellow spiritual seekers I feel energized, excited, passionate, and alive. (And the blog posts just flow out of me!)

And something even more amazing happens- THEY start feeling energized, excited, passionate and alive, too.

When I share the real me my clients + friends get unstuck.  Find their purpose. And get their passion back, right along with me.

So I’m making the choice to live fully out of the closet.

To be seen. Value my talents. And live my purpose.

I hope you join me for the ride. It’s gonna be ah-mazing!



  1. Leah Kelton June 4, 2014 at 2:24 pm

    I’m proud of you, sweet cousin. I miss you, and so wish we could sit down and talk closets and living God-given passions!

  2. Jennie Bottalico June 11, 2014 at 6:52 pm

    I just came across your new website and blog. It is wonderful. I love your posts and look forward to reading more; they bring me energy and joy. xoxo J

  3. Caley June 12, 2014 at 12:35 am

    Aw, thanks for the love n support, J! ❤

  4. Caley June 12, 2014 at 12:35 am

    Thanks, Leah! We’d love to host you in Seattle anytime. We can talk closets and have a photo shoot. It’d be awesome. 😉

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