One of my fave parts of being a coach is reminding my clients exactly how far they’ve come.
It’s so easy to downplay our own achievements.
Pass ‘em off as coincidence, luck or deem ‘em not good enough.
An outside perspective (like mine) can be so helpful. And so healing.
So what gives? Why do we do this to ourselves?
I find when we feel can’t feel or remember our progress it’s generally one of two reasons:
- We’re too good at letting go.
- We’re too good at looking ahead.
See, when we’re too good at letting go we’re always focused on the letting go part.
Our priority is the next issue to be tackled.
The next hurdle in our way.
And, what we’ve still got to work on.
Which means we forget- completely- to fill in with new.
We’re so busy moving on to the next thing we need to let go that we skip the oh-so-important step of replacing the old limiting beliefs, patterns, relationships with newer, healthier, positive, forward-moving beliefs, patterns + relationships.
So, even though we’re seriously working our booty off, we’re left with a big ol’ hole.
A huge void.
It’s not that we haven’t made progress. Not. At. All.
It’s that we’ve purged our lives + and emotional closets in order to create our desires and then totally forgotten to ADD OUR DESIRE.
And, then there’s being too good at looking ahead. The problem here is that we’re always focused on the future. Y ou know, down the road.
We’re locked into where we want to get. What we want our lives to look like.
All the while, blissfully ignoring what’s right in front of us + what we’re doing RIGHT NOW that created this situation to begin with.
Kinda like asking for directions to the Space Needle, you’ve got to know where you’re starting from for the directions to make any sense.
Paying attention to your starting point is how you not only track your progress- so you know you’re making some– but also how you know which route to take. Which pattern to alter. Which belief to replace.
In both cases we skip steps for fear that they’ll knock us off our course. Slow us down. Or keep us stuck.
When we (finally) accept that it’s the skipping steps that keep us stuck… progress is unavoidable.